by Jennifer Wilkins, Founder of Know Bull!
Know Bull! recently posted comments in response to an article about a cyber-
In reality...there are steps that loving parents, grand-
It's incredibly sad that a young girl lost her life due to bullying
What was so 'offensive'?
1. In the comments section of said article a contributor asked: why can't the bullies be outed?
And the response was basically:
Because they're a 'protected' species. Card-
2. In the final comment a contributor suggested something like: teaching kids to be kind to one another was the way to go, and then when the child experiences bullying they should understand that it's not them...but it's because (in a nutshell) the bully has a lot of hurt inside.
And the response went something like this:
There's nothing wrong with teaching children kindness. But teaching a kid to fend off a bully by 'understanding' they're just a mass of hurt on the inside...is the same as trying to scrape barnacles off the bottom of a boat with a piece of lettuce...it's going to be an epic fail. And putting this into practice literally 'guarantees' that a kid will get pounded into the ground...repeatedly. School bullies will generally bully those children they 'perceive' as 'weak'.
When young people practice bullying, it's not about 'internal' hurt...it's about 'gratification' and 'reward'. By all means teach your children about kindness and respect in their interactions with others...but also get them kick boxing lessons -
It's healthy self esteem (and reputation) that assists kids in fending off the bullies...and it's not about violence. It's about an otherwise potential 'target' getting themselves off, or never even finding themselves, on the 'weak' list. Kids who do some type of self defence generally don't get targetted, because the school grapevine knows which kids can take care of themselves. Bullies may be opportunistic -
What can you do to help young people avoid the bullies?
Aside from self defence lessons -
A number of children have emailed us saying that they read through articles linked in this website, with their parents, grandparents, school advisors, teachers, and after-
Children rely on their parents and other adult figures to keep them safe. Please be worthy of that trust, and deal with school bullying immediately -
Teach your children to be resilient
At Know Bull! we receive emails about suicides that eminate from bullying, and we're painfully aware of the damage and the hurt being done to families. According to Australian Bureau of Statistics information published on the Head Space website: "In 2015 [the latest available figures], suicide was the leading cause of death of children between 5 and 17 years of age." However, as the youth suicide rate continues to climb -
The reality of life is that there will be a few bumps along the way...and that's normal. If every child expects to get a medal...where's the incentive to strive, let alone to ability to cope with the occasional disappointments that life will invariably send their way? And if you raise a child to believe that 'feelings' are the same as 'facts', and that they require 'safe spaces' just to cope with something as trivial as hearing an opinion that differs to theirs -
[11 January 2018]